Comments on: Helpful Resources for those touched by domestic violence http://www.shereads.org/2009/09/helpful-resources-for-those-touched-by-domestic-violence/ Story: The Shortest Distance to the Human Heart Sun, 05 Feb 2012 02:21:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Domestic Violence: A Huge Secret | Mary DeMuth http://www.shereads.org/2009/09/helpful-resources-for-those-touched-by-domestic-violence/comment-page-1/#comment-6612 Domestic Violence: A Huge Secret | Mary DeMuth Sun, 18 Jul 2010 01:41:13 +0000 http://www.shereads.org/2009/09/helpful-resources-for-those-touched-by-domestic-violence/#comment-6612 [...] If this is your story, or the story of a friend, please forward the link for the post, or take it to heart. Read through the comments section. Savor the resources posted here. [...] [...] If this is your story, or the story of a friend, please forward the link for the post, or take it to heart. Read through the comments section. Savor the resources posted here. [...]

]]> By: Mary E. DeMuth http://www.shereads.org/2009/09/helpful-resources-for-those-touched-by-domestic-violence/comment-page-1/#comment-40 Mary E. DeMuth Tue, 22 Sep 2009 17:52:38 +0000 http://www.shereads.org/2009/09/helpful-resources-for-those-touched-by-domestic-violence/#comment-40 MaryLou, Wow, that's a very, very long time. I'm thankful you've run to Jesus for support and healing. May the Lord bring joy and laughter to you in unexpected ways this week. Warmly, Mary MaryLou,

Wow, that’s a very, very long time. I’m thankful you’ve run to Jesus for support and healing. May the Lord bring joy and laughter to you in unexpected ways this week.

Warmly,
Mary

]]> By: MaryLou http://www.shereads.org/2009/09/helpful-resources-for-those-touched-by-domestic-violence/comment-page-1/#comment-39 MaryLou Tue, 22 Sep 2009 11:47:57 +0000 http://www.shereads.org/2009/09/helpful-resources-for-those-touched-by-domestic-violence/#comment-39 Thanks for bringing this to light. Here is my story. I have been married to an abusive man for 52 years. I am strong in my faith and confident I am a worthy follower. My love for my husband is great and devoted and know he loves me dearly. Long ago he physically abused me. Once when he hit me, I pretended to be unconcious for 5 minutes. He never hit me again. Emotional abuse continues - less,as years pass, but still there. He is a "control freak" Recently, I began specifically praying for his heart to receive the love of Jesus and to feel the love for Jesus that I feel and he still does not. I was given The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian and I am applying the works I am reading. True love is strong and I have great hope even after all of these years. We are blessed with 7 children, many of which have witnessed the abuse of their mother which has been difficult for them and for me. They have been my support team. ..and many times one or the other urged me to leave. Perhaps I should have left long ago, but I did not and will not. All will be well someday. We are devoted to one another and my self esteem was reborn after I took control of myself and did not allow his words to hurt, as I knew it was with himself that he was unhappy. Thanks for "listening" It helps to tell of it. I am, perhaps, not as happy every day as I would like to be, but I have a Happy Heart and know Jesus loves me and my husband and family and stands to uphold us when we fall. Thanks for bringing this to light. Here is my story. I have been married to an abusive man for 52 years. I am strong in my faith and confident I am a worthy follower. My love for my husband is great and devoted and know he loves me dearly. Long ago he physically abused me. Once when he hit me, I pretended to be unconcious for 5 minutes. He never hit me again. Emotional abuse continues – less,as years pass, but still there. He is a “control freak” Recently, I began specifically praying for his heart to receive the love of Jesus and to feel the love for Jesus that I feel and he still does not. I was given The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian and I am applying the works I am reading. True love is strong and I have great hope even after all of these years. We are blessed with 7 children, many of which have witnessed the abuse of their mother which has been difficult for them and for me. They have been my support team. ..and many times one or the other urged me to leave. Perhaps I should have left long ago, but I did not and will not. All will be well someday. We are devoted to one another and my self esteem was reborn after I took control of myself and did not allow his words to hurt, as I knew it was with himself that he was unhappy. Thanks for “listening” It helps to tell of it. I am, perhaps, not as happy every day as I would like to be, but I have a Happy Heart and know Jesus loves me and my husband and family and stands to uphold us when we fall.

]]> By: Mary E. DeMuth http://www.shereads.org/2009/09/helpful-resources-for-those-touched-by-domestic-violence/comment-page-1/#comment-38 Mary E. DeMuth Mon, 21 Sep 2009 16:46:08 +0000 http://www.shereads.org/2009/09/helpful-resources-for-those-touched-by-domestic-violence/#comment-38 Lesa, Thanks for sharing your story. What a blessing that you've come through on the other side. Wow! Although I did not marry an abusive man (great, amazing hubby), I could have. My best advice is to truly seek healing for past family trauma. When we pursue that, our hearts aren't as damaged. Lesa,

Thanks for sharing your story. What a blessing that you’ve come through on the other side. Wow!

Although I did not marry an abusive man (great, amazing hubby), I could have. My best advice is to truly seek healing for past family trauma. When we pursue that, our hearts aren’t as damaged.

]]> By: Lesa http://www.shereads.org/2009/09/helpful-resources-for-those-touched-by-domestic-violence/comment-page-1/#comment-37 Lesa Mon, 21 Sep 2009 15:19:02 +0000 http://www.shereads.org/2009/09/helpful-resources-for-those-touched-by-domestic-violence/#comment-37 I have been married to abusive men twice. Argh! I know! Now I am a divorced 46 year old christian woman with a lot of experience in this area. Thank you for putting it out there for others. I've always wanted too, but was always healing myself first. One thing that struck me in your Proverbs 31 letter is the part about men in ministry. Neither of my husbands were in ministry, but they both "used" God's words about women submitting themselves to their husbands in an effort to control me. It's very important for women out there that have not healed to understand that these are flags to look for when they do meet another man. Almost any man that is a "date" that asks you questions about your beliefs in scripture concerning women is a potential abuser, especially if you don't know him well. He is seeking a woman that he can abuse whether he knows it or not. Getting into dating after abuse is risky business. Be careful. Most of us say we will never let it happen again, but we fall for the same type of person. My advice is get to know yourself very well. And pray about every relationship in your life. If it is of God, it will not hurt to love someone. Thanks for being a voice. I have been married to abusive men twice. Argh! I know! Now I am a divorced 46 year old christian woman with a lot of experience in this area. Thank you for putting it out there for others. I’ve always wanted too, but was always healing myself first. One thing that struck me in your Proverbs 31 letter is the part about men in ministry. Neither of my husbands were in ministry, but they both “used” God’s words about women submitting themselves to their husbands in an effort to control me. It’s very important for women out there that have not healed to understand that these are flags to look for when they do meet another man. Almost any man that is a “date” that asks you questions about your beliefs in scripture concerning women is a potential abuser, especially if you don’t know him well. He is seeking a woman that he can abuse whether he knows it or not. Getting into dating after abuse is risky business. Be careful. Most of us say we will never let it happen again, but we fall for the same type of person. My advice is get to know yourself very well. And pray about every relationship in your life. If it is of God, it will not hurt to love someone.
Thanks for being a voice.

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